If you are going to be a dad for the first time in your life…that too within nine months, expect how your reactions would be. You can not explain, right. That is the great wonder of ‘being a father’. Though one is positive about his partner’s pregnancy, still you may have few doubts and confusion. First time pregnancy to your partner definitely stimulates feelings of fear and hope. But don’t worry; here we guide you on how to handle those feelings. The first and best guidance we give you – understand your feelings during this time, it really helps to shift to the new role of ‘dad’. Find out more..

In the First Trimester:
In the first trimester common anxieties would be: partner’s health, financial worries and concerns about fatherhood. Here are the tips to handle these anxieties.

For your wife/partner:

• Discuss with your wife about hopes and dreams, fears and anxieties of becoming parents to a child.
• Regularly go on walks along with your partner.
• Talk about how to handle various things in the coming months and how to enjoy the pregnancy time.

For yourself:

• Spend some time with your close heart-to-heart friends with whom you can share the news of your ‘new role’ and enjoy those moments.
• Purchase one or few books on parenting, go through them and prepare yourself to be ‘the best’ father.
• Also spend sometime alone and enjoy the feelings of becoming a father.

In the Second Trimester:
Change in the sexuality of your partner due to the hormonal changes in her body will be a major worry for you during this time. But don’t worry too much. Pay a heed to these great tips.

For your wife/partner:

• This is the time you have to start helping your partner in household chores. Happily accept this new job and perform it well.
• Take share in the feelings of your partner on going to be a great mom soon.
• Let your wife know clearly that she has to inform and discuss on the positives and negatives she may face in the coming months.

For yourself:

• Talk with two other fathers on how they feel as being parents.
• If possible, ask your father about his reactions when you are in and out of your mom’s womb.

In the Third Trimester:

The physical changes that your partner goes through and their adverse effect on her psychological state will be a major problem for you. Anyway don’t worry; we are here to help you. Just follow these tips.

For your wife/partner:

• Prepare your home to welcome the new family member by – getting things like baby furniture, readying the house, preparing extra meals,…..
• Let your partner know that you love to hear in her own words – what you can do for her at the time of delivery.
• Go on a tour to the place where your baby will born.

For yourself:

• Prepare yourself – personally and professionally – for the birth. Check, see and understand properly how flexible your work will be before and after delivery.
• Get information from any of your known friends-cum-fathers about their experience of babies’ births. It helps you to prepare in advance how to handle the situations at the time of delivery.